One of the most painful and destructive of the narcissistic personality disorder traits is jealousy. Narcissists have a very fragile sense of self. At a deep level they believe they are unlovable and unacceptable and live in the perpetual fear that they are insignificant to other people.
As a result of these chronic insecurities the narcissistic personality disorder trait of jealousy will raise its ugly head when the narcissist’s significant other is receiving attention or energy from any source other than the narcissist.
Jealousy, and even pathological and violent jealousy can emerge as a result of a perceived love threat, friends and family, an interest, hobby or vocation, and in fact anything that takes the love partner’s interest away from the narcissist.
Jealousy and other narcissistic personality disorder traits may emerge from something as simple as their partner being the centre of attention of a conversation where the narcissist felt left out.
Suffering the brunt of this narcissistic personality disorder trait is extremely disturbing for people who are violated by the narcissist’s wrath. Regardless of how many times you try to reason with the narcissist, and try to make them take responsibility for their insecurities, demands and entitlements, your actions will be to no avail.
The narcissist does not have the inner resources to take responsibility for their insecurities that occur as a result of theirnarcissistic personality disorder traits. As far as the narcissist is concerned everyone else is the cause for their internal pain, and the narcissist will do everything in their power to place the blame on others.